Normalizing sex to Improve your relationship
Updated: Nov 28, 2022
Let’s talk about sex today, why – Because Women’s sexual health has been neglected and shamed for far too long. Between being objectified and treated as taboo, women have been sitting in silence, often not brave enough to start asking questions about what it means to have a great sex life and what it takes to get your partner in on the action. Believe it or not, there are couples that have been together for years and may even have children that are not comfortable with conversations about sex.
Having open communication with about your sex life, desires and fantasies together is so important to the health and longevity of your sex life. Knowing when and how to find the right moment, the right questions, and the right approach will not only improve your sex life, it can positively impact the health of your relationship and lives together. Let’s take a deep dive to make your sex life over the top great together.
More than half of all teenagers are totally uncomfortable discussing the same thing that nearly a third of adults are uncomfortable discussing. Sex! Coming from an ethnic background “sex talk” always has been taboo and has lots of stigma and shame attached to it. I was never allowed to talk about sex – even the “sex” word is a sin in some cultures. I always felt so embarrassed and ashamed to talk about intimate relationships and sexuality but talking to a friend who reminded me how important part this is of a romantic relationship made me realize how it can impact your relationship and lead to so much resentment, and anger towards each other which could end up in relationship breakdown. If you’re not ready to talk with your partner about sex, you’re not ready to have sex. if you don't discuss it, you may end up in a relationship with someone that may be the antithesis of what sexually turns you on.
Whether you are fresh out of your last relationship, on a break, taking time to heal from a breakup, or looking for ways to strengthen the romance and bond in your current relationship, that will enhance all of your relationships.
Women need to feel loved to have sex, and men need to have sex to feel loved. Sexual pleasure between you and your partner is a must for a healthy relationship to thrive. When it comes to pleasing each other are you 100% sure you know how to satisfy your partner and are you giving each other the opportunity to explore (or at least discuss) your most intimate kinky little twists? How comfortable are you telling your partner about your sexual fantasies? Is the fear of being judged or dismissed holding you back from sharing? If you were to share and your partner expressed excitement in helping you fulfill that fantasy would it be worth sharing? Talking about sex is rarely a casual or comfortable topic, take away the shame and mystery and share reasons why you may want to have a talk with your significant other before the lights go out tonight.
So we are talking about it today and will break down exactly how to improve your relationship by first discovering your own pleasure, and then by having conversations with your partner so the two of you can explore and enjoy together to change your sex life! Most people want to talk about it. They just haven’t felt safe or had that person.”
So here are a few strategies to make your sex life better and have a better relationship with your spouse even if you have the most incredible sex, […] in every single relationship, it’s going to get stale.
Tell Him What You Want -If we expect that every time our partner comes up to us, we should be ready to go, then we’re not doing our part, we have to keep our own pilot light lit.
Take on the ownership of: “What am I not giving you?” Because to trick ourselves into thinking we are always giving our partner exactly what they need all the time is absolutely putting blinders on. Ask questions like “ are you satisfied with the physical aspects of our relationship? Where and how do you like to be touched?
Testing the Waters -We need good ol’ foreplay. It’s not just a suggestion, it’s actually a requirement. It is a requirement for women to get turned on. How much do you foreplay do you like before sex?
Healthy masturbation is the key to unlocking our own pleasure because we’re responsible for our own orgasms.
We got to make sex fun and something that you share. It’s not up to one person to carry the weight of the sex life.
Embarrassed & Insecure - If you don’t accept your own body, it’s going to be really hard to get somebody else on board with it as well
we’re going to be the ones who ultimately are going to be able to crack our own code, then we can share it with a partner.
Talk about the details of sex more—and more often.
Discuss sex outside of the bedroom, as a regular part of working on your overall relationship quality. Talk about what you do during sex and what it means, what you each want, what you like, what you don't like when are the best times for sex when you don't want sex, what your fantasies are, what feels good, what doesn't feel good, and so on. Talking about the relationship without addressing sex may improve overall relationship satisfaction, but was not correlated with sexual satisfaction in and of itself.
Talk about sex in a way that works for both partners.
Both the process and the content of sexual communication are correlated with greater sexual satisfaction.
Sexual communication is associated with greater overall relationship satisfaction.
Working on these factors to improve sexual satisfaction will probably increase your overall relationship satisfaction. However, working on the relationship in general without specifically addressing sexual satisfaction is unlikely to improve your sex life.